Strong people admit wrong. Strong leaders admit fault. Strong men and women admit that they are works in progress. Yet, some of us have such a hard time with this.
We had not been married very long. We were in a "discussion" (argument). I don’t know the issue or the subject. I just remember that there was strong disagreement. Charlotte was upset with me about something. I was defensive and was standing my ground. What I remember is that somewhere in the middle of the discussion it suddenly dawned on me that she was right. Of course, I was too prideful and insecure to immediately admit that. So, I continued arguing in favor of something I knew was wrong. How dumb.
So why do some of us rarely, if ever, say:
- "I don’t know anything about that."
- "You know a lot more than I do about this."
- "I sure have a lot to learn."
- "I really haven’t thought through this."
- "I must have made a mistake."
- "I don’t know what to do."
What is it that keeps us from ever saying anything that suggests error, a lack of knowledge, or uncertainty? Perhaps it is our own sense of insecurity. I remember a time when a person made this observation regarding a particular Christian leader: "He is not going to admit that he doesn’t know what to do. He is far too insecure. Instead, he will probably try to communicate that he is actually ahead of everyone else in his thinking about this matter." Oh my.
There is something freeing about not having to always know, always be a step ahead, always be on target, or always be insightful. There is something freeing about being able to learn, grown, and be a work in progress. Maybe that has something to do with finding security in Christ instead of my own competency or my desire for the esteem of others.
Does this speak to you?