Inside-Out Ministry

images.jpgI am not sure where I first heard the expression "Ministry is inside-out not outside-in."  I may have first heard it from Doug Kostowski who preached in Southern California years ago.  I recall hearing him use this expression in a message.

 
I think the principle is very important though I am not sure I understood it fully for many years.  

 
First, every Christian is an everyday minister.  God uses each one of us for his purposes in some way.  He gifts us and then empowers us with his Spirit for that ministry.  

 
Second, everyday ministry is more than "church work."  It is more than doing tasks.  It is more than being on a committee or being involved in some project at "the building."  Ministry is whatever we do which is used by God in some way to glorify him and serve another.

 
Third, ministry is a product of the "Spirituality" of a person.  That is, the Spirit works within each one of us to create a Christ-like person (the Christ-formed person).  Out of such a heart flows practical everyday ministry.  

 
I like the way Norman Shawchuck and Roger Heuser describe "Spirituality." 

Spirituality: The means by which we develop an awareness of the Spirit of God in us and the processes by which we keep that awareness alive and vital, to the end that we become formed in the Spirit of Christ.

(Shawchuck, Norman and Heuser, Roger, Leading the Congregation, p. 39)

Bottom line: Ministry must flow out of Spirituality.  There, the Spirit is at work so that the ministry being done is not just a task being performed, but the Christ-formed life being expressed in practical ways.

Therein lies the secret of the easy yoke, according to Dallas Willard.  In order to effectively follow Jesus in public ministry, we must also follow Jesus into the lonely desert and mountains to be alone with God.  It is true that "a successful performance at a moment of crisis rests largely and essentially upon the depths of a self wisely and rigorously prepared in the totality of its being."  In other words, "We who are appointed by God to heal others, need the physician ourselves.  This necessary relationship between the leader’s private solitude and public ministry, according to Nouwen, can only be nourished "when we have met our Lord in the silent intimacy of our prayer" which will enable us also to "meet him in the camp, in the market, and in the town square.  But when we have not met him in the center of our hearts, we cannot expect to meet him in he busyness of our daily lives."

 
(Shawchuck and Heuser, p. 42) 

Moments that Shaped (Part 3)

vw_beetle.jpgI won’t forget this moment.  I was a sophomore in high school and football season was coming to an end.  I had played football for two years — well, I was on the team.  

 
One afternoon, I was in the restroom at school.  No one else was there.  Just as I was about to walk out, our head football coach walked in.  I admired and respected him.  He had a way of communicating a real concern for each one of us.  As he walked into the restroom, he asked me if I was going to play football the next year.  He told me that I had a chance to play more.  I told him that I wasn’t going to play.  I explained that I had a job and I was going to buy a car.

 
I have never forgotten his response.  He said, "You know, you will always have a car for the rest of your life.  You only have one chance to play football."  Of course I did not listen to him.  I quit football, began working more hours, and bought a yellow Volkswagen.  Instead of playing football, I was now making car payments.

 
Was he right?  Of course.  Later on, I regretted not playing football those last two years.  What I don’t regret is the lesson I learned from Coach Campbell.  He taught me a very important lesson at an impressionable age.  He taught me to have a sense of priority in my life.  I learned from this coach that there really are moments in life that will not be repeated again.  I thought of this moment when our children were small.  I will always be working, but I will only be a father to my children (at home) on one occasion.

 
I’ve never forgotten this moment — even 38 years later.  It was a moment that shaped.

 
Can you think of some "moments that shaped" your own life?  Can you think of some moments that have made all the difference to you?

Moments that Shaped (Part 2)

23rd_Psalm.jpgShe was 26 years old and single.  Kay began visiting our church with her sister Brenda.  This was the first church where I preached, a little storefront church in middle Tennessee.

 
Charlotte and I couldn’t help but notice her.  After all, she was related to a family we really admired.  Brenda and Byron were a young couple in our church with two beautiful blond- headed little girls.  I recall going to Brenda and Byron’s home on numerous occasions for Sunday lunch.  There was always much laughter in their home.

 
One day Brenda told me that Kay had received bad news.  She had cancer.  Twenty-six years old!  Charlotte and I stopped by her little apartment one Sunday afternoon.  We talked and prayed with her.  She sat on her couch in front of the big picture window and cried and cried.

 
Days went by.  Months went by.

 
One night I received a telephone call.  Kay was in the hospital in Columbia (Tennessee).  She was near death.  I left our house that evening and drove through a steady rain to the hospital about forty-five minutes away.  I stopped by her room and spoke with her mother and dad.  I had never seen anyone near death before.  Brenda and Byron walked with me down the hall to the waiting room.  I was stunned when I entered the large waiting room.  The room was full but very quiet.  The lights were off.  There were people everywhere.  I suddenly felt very self-conscious.  I didn’t know what to do.  So, I sat on the floor near the family.

 
About twenty minutes later she died.

 
People in the waiting room cried and then hugged one another.  They hugged family members and then they began to leave — everyone except the family.  A nurse approached me and asked me if I would like to "lead the family to the chapel."  (She could probably tell that I didn’t have a clue what I was supposed to do.  I had never experienced anything like this before.)  I had no idea where the chapel was so the nurse took the group there. 

 
This occurred twenty-six years ago, but I remember the next scene so vividly.   The family quietly gathered in the little chapel and sat down.  When the last person went through the door, the nurse, who was waiting in the hall, smiled at me and nodded.  This was such a significant moment.  I was no longer a college student.  I was no longer a person who could pass this moment on to someone else.  Just twenty minutes earlier, this family had watched a 26-year-old woman slip away into eternity.  She had died.  She was someone’s daughter, sister, granddaughter, and fiancee.

 
I saw a larger King James Version Bible on a podium in the chapel.  I began to read the twenty-third Psalm — slowly and quietly.  I prayed for the family and then slipped out of the chapel to return home.  In that incredibly important moment, my uncertainty and inexperience did not rule.  Rather, God in his sweet mercy stepped in and got me through it all.

 
This was a moment that marked me.  I learned that God is faithful and is with me — always.

 
I suspect many of you who are reading this can recall in your own life moments when God’s forever-presence became incredibly important and reassuring.
 

Moments that Shaped (Part 1)

decisions2.jpgI remember several significant decision moments that occurred early in my ministry.  These decision moments were defining.  These decisions turned out to be very important in the formative years of my ministry.

 
I remember the day that I had to make a decision next to Bill’s white Cadillac.

 
I was preaching for a little church in middle Tennessee.  We were about an hour south of Nashville.  This church met in a storefront.  The building was actually a former convenience store.  We were on a main highway leading into town.  Across the street was "the big round bank." 

 
One of our members was "Bill." Bill was in his 60s.  He had divorced his wife a few years back.  Anyway, he was a part of our small church.  This little group of 65 or 70 people was barely getting by financially.  It helped that Bill was a successful businessman, affluent, and that he put a sizable check in the offering each week.

 
One Sunday, I walked outside after the morning assembly.   Bill was sitting in his white Cadillac, smoking a big cigar.  He looked at me and did not look happy.  He motioned for me to come to his car.  I walked over to the driver’s side of his car and the electric window came down.  He took the cigar out of his mouth and said, "Let’s don’t mention the _______ anymore."  (The blank?  A derogatory slang word for anyone who was black.  Not the "n" word but nevertheless an ugly term.)

 
He was referring to the sermon that morning.  I don’t remember the subject or the text.  I remember the essence of what I said.  That morning,  I said something like, "Scripture calls for us to love people, regardless of race or ethnic groups.  That includes everyone!"  So, standing by his car I had to make a decision.  How will I respond to this man?  How will I respond to what I consider a racist attitude?  How will I respond to his effort to intimidate?  How will I respond to an inward fear that he might withhold his check or even leave?

 
At that moment, God gave me the strength to say, "Bill, I am going to have to say what I think the Bible teaches."

 
I then walked away from his car feeling sick.  Sick as I thought about what he said.  Sick as I thought about his effort to intimidate.  Yet, I also walked away knowing that in that moment, I had done the right thing.  

 
That was twenty-seven years ago.  Yet, it almost seems like yesterday.  That decision was a critical moment.  It was in that decision that something was etched on my heart reminding me of who I am.  That day has also been a reminder to me that the one I am called to please is the Lord Jesus — regardless.

 
Can you look back and see decisions you’ve made that turned out to be critical in your formation as a Christ-follower? 

When You Worry

worry.jpgOkay — sometimes I worry.  I worry about the future.   I worry about decisions.  I worry about things I have no control over.  Then, I will catch myself.  I will become painfully aware that I am trying to handle life on my own and live out of my own strength.  What is incredibly comforting is to realize that I am not alone.  God’s forever presence in Jesus through his Spirit is mine to claim.  No, that is not a "fix."  It is actually better.  Most of the time what we need is not a fix, rather it is to learn how to see life from God’s vantage point.  THAT is what it means to live in reality.  

 
One of the great promises that Jesus made at the end of his life is recorded at the end of Matthew.  It is an important promise.  The promise is a reminder that his presence is forever.  After commissioning his disciples to make disciples of all the nations, he makes this promise: "…And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20).  His forever promise is a reality through the Spirit of God who dwells in each one of us.  Does his presence have practical, everyday implications?  Absolutely!

 
How do I make it through this cancer?  “I am with you always.”

 
How do I deal with such a difficult marriage?  “I am with you always.”

 
How do I remain in this university and live the way God wants me to live instead of lowering my standards? 
“I am with you always.”

 
How do I live with the courage to do what is right?  “I am with you always.”

 
How can I be a person who doesn’t get paralyzed by the disapproval of others?  “I am with
you always.”

 
How can I be a person who is passionate about reaching others who do not know Christ?  “I am
with you always.”

 
How do we rear our children in such a godless world?  “I am with you always.”

 
How do we move forward as a church and at the same time make wise decisions?  “I am with you
always.”

 
How do we pray believing that things will be different as the result of prayer?  “I am with
you always.”

 
How can we be a church that is dead?  Dead to sin. 
Dead to self-centeredness.  “I am with you always.”

 
How can we be a church where we build up, encourage, and commit instead of give up, cave in, and run away?  “I am with you always.”

Have You Ever Been Stuck?

Cup_of_Coffee.GIFI’ve been thinking lately about being "stuck."  Being stuck is to feel trapped or unable to move.  Doesn’t sound fun does it?  Yet, I think many of us know what it means to be stuck. 
 

  • We can become stuck in the way we relate to one another in marriage.  We continue to behave in the same manner toward one another and get the same results.
  • We can become stuck in the way we relate to our children or parents.  What we are doing seems to create such a negative atmosphere in our home.
  • We can become stuck in the way we handle ourselves at work.  We continue to approach our work in the same old tired way.  Our jobs may feel boring and without purpose.

 
One of the greatest obstacles that many of us face is to become stuck in our thinking.  In our minds, we have very few options.  It is either black/white.  It is either/or.  Maybe that is true at times, but some people seem to reduce all of life to this.  As a result, they continually lean toward whatever is low risk and fairly predictable.

 
Being stuck feels hopeless and lifeless.  Feeling stuck has a way of sucking the energy out of you.  "Oh well," you sigh in resignation.

 
This is familiar territory for me.  On more than one occasion, I have experienced defeat — not on the battlefield but in my mind.  I felt as if I had few, if any, options and was basically trapped in my circumstances as they existed.  This kind of thinking made me feel tired and unmotivated.  "What’s the use?"  I was bogged down and stuck.  However, it was not the impossible circumstances of my life that created those feelings.  Rather, it was my failure to trust in the God who redefines the meaning of "possible." 
There is another way to live.  I love the words Jesus uttered in Mark 10 after challenging a "stuck" person to sell all he had and give to the poor.  This person was stuck or attached to his possessions.  The disciples were amazed at Jesus’ words, "How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God!" (10:23).  The more he talked, the more amazed they were.  Finally, they began to say to one another, "Who then can be saved?"  Then, Jesus said these amazing words:

 
…With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.  (Mark 10:27)

God can even deliver a person who is stuck in the bondage of his possessions!  God can change the most impossible person.  God can set free a person who has been in bondage to a destructive habit, addiction, or lifestyle.  God can set free our thinking.  Instead of focusing on what is possible for a human being to do, I can begin to focus on God.  Jesus reminds us that our God is not limited by what is possible for a human being to accomplish.

 
Perhaps my focus needs to be not on myself, my limitations, and my inadequacies.  Perhaps my focus needs to be on God and his unlimited power and his adequacy.

 
This is something I’ve been thinking about recently.  Can you recall a time when your thinking became stuck?  What in particular was or has been helpful to you in getting unstuck?

The Friendship of the Lord

Yesterday, I had a good conversation on the telephone with a longtime friend.  He called me from an airport where he was waiting on a flight.  I don’t talk with him often.  However, he is a friend who I’ve known for years and so we are able to talk very honestly and candidly about life even though our conversations are not frequent.  

 
On Thursday, another friend called me in the middle of his day just to "check in" and see how things were going.  My friend (who is a very busy person) called me from his office.  He said a few affirming words over the telephone and then read to me a brief but wonderful story.  The conversation probably lasted six or seven minutes but was very encouraging.  He does this kind of thing quite regularly. 

 
Then I think of two other friends.  One lives in Dallas and the other in Alabama.  I call them regularly to check in, and they do the same.  Both are great guys and longtime friends.

 
I’ve been thinking about these friends and this morning came across a wonderful line in Psalm 25:14.  "The friendship of the Lord is for those who fear him, and he makes known to them his covenant." (English Standard Version)

 
Now imagine that!  "The friendship of the Lord."  What a wonderful line!  It is even more wonderful to realize that he has an interest in being a friend to me.  Yes, he is sovereign, majestic, holy, and one who cannot be contained.  Yet, he is also near, loving, and knows the number of hairs on my head and yours.  Now he refers to the possibility of a real friendship with himself.  Incredible!

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What Do You See?

coffee3.jpgMost of the day, when I am at my desk, I generally listen to music.  The volume is very low, but the music has a way of helping me study and think.  Most of the time I listen to something mellow.  I generally listen through iTunes or Last.fm.  (Are you familiar with Last.fm?  I love it!  They bill themselves as "personalized Internet radio."  Also, it is free.)

 
While at my desk yesterday, I read an article in the Waco Tribune Herald about a woman who died this week and was found inside an outdoor heating and air conditioning unit at a local middle school.  This woman was only a few steps away from her home where she lived by herself.

 
She was 68 years old and the daughter of a former mayor of Waco (1960s).  During her childhood years, her parents were wealthy and a popular couple in our city.  Meanwhile, what was unknown to many people was that they had a daughter.  She was rarely seen in public with them.  This daughter had been diagnosed with schizophrenia.  One friend of the family said, "This was just a tragic family."

 
Years later, this woman married and continued to live in Waco.  I met her one day when she came by the office.  We had a brief conversation and she went on her way.

 
The word "tragic" seems to fit.

 
I was thinking today about a few other tragic situations I have seen:

 

  • A high school student raised in a setting where few, if anyone, really seemed to care about him.  He became angry and defiant during his teen years.  He seemed starved for whatever positive attention any adult might give him.
  • A young man whose parents divorced when he was at a very critical age.  He spent his early twenties roaming from one job to another.  He bounced from one relationship to the next.  In his mid-twenties, he seemed very, very lost.
  • An older woman whose son committed suicide years ago.  Since that day, she has pulled away from friends and family and has become a very bitter and angry person through the years.

These are tragedies.  These are just three examples, but I could go on and on citing numerous situations with various people. 

 
I am impressed that Jesus looked at people like this and saw them for what they were.  They were helpless and lost.  He spoke of them as being "… sheep without a shepherd."  He saw their need and felt compassion (Matthew 9:36-38). 

 
If I were to look through his eyes, what would I see?  How does this compare with what I see through my own eyes?

 
Sometimes, I will deal with a person who is just hard to figure out.  I have found it helpful to imagine what that person might have been like as a child.  Somewhere inside this adult, is this child.  Jesus has known this person since she was a child.  He sees more than her obnoxious behavior or her foul attitude.  He sees this person as someone created by the Father and in desperate need of an ongoing relationship with the one who made her.

 
Now, I would like to see people like that.  

The Knowledge of God

The following quotes are by Sinclair Ferguson.  They are taken from his book A Heart For God.  Ferguson writes clearly about the importance of knowing God.

What is the most important thing in the world to every Christian?  It is to grow in the knowledge of God (p. 1).

When people truly know God and are growing in a genuine relationship with him, however, their lives are marked by integrity and reality.  They do not treat dishonesty of the heart or of the lips indifferently.  They are, in a word, holy.  But our age is frightened of holiness.  It is all the more tragic, therefore, that the church has also become frightened of holiness.  It likes nothing less than to be different.  The same may be true of us individually.  Why?  Because we do not know God as we should.  If we really knew him, it would show in the character of our lives (p. 2).

 
Knowing God is your single greatest privilege as a Christian, and the one that sensitizes you to every other issue of importance.  But is this the issue that lies at the centre of your thinking (p. 4)?

When You Feel Exhausted


Life can be exhausting.  Think of what takes so much energy:

 

  • Tasks to be done.  (And, dealing with situations where the task was not done or was not done well.)
  • Maintenance and stewardship of finances.   (And, dealing with finances when you have overspent and lived beyond your means.)
  • Care and feeding of relationships.  (And, dealing with relationships where there is conflict.  Friends.  Marriage.  Parents/children.)
  • Emotions.  Expressing them and managing them.  (And, dealing with emotions that expressed in certain ways can actually be harmful.)

You can probably think of more factors that account for life being so exhausting.  This morning, I want to leave you with Scripture.  These words from Isaiah 41 have been so helpful and hopeful to me:

You whom I have taken from
the ends of the earth, And called from its remotest parts, And said
to you, "You are My servant"; I have chosen you and not rejected
you. Do not fear, for I am with you; do not anxiously look about
you, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you, surely I will help
you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. 

Behold, all those who are angered at you will be shamed and
dishonored; those who contend with you will be as nothing, and will
perish. You will seek those who quarrel with you, but will not find
them, Those who war with you will be as nothing, and non-existent. 
For I am the Lord your God, who upholds your right hand, Who says
to you, "Do not fear, I will help you."