Suppose for a moment that you were asked to pass on some of the most important truths or lessons about life to four people whom you deeply cared about.
To one person you will pass on some of the most important things you have learned about being a husband or wife. To a second person, you will pass on some of the most important truths you have learned about being a mom or dad. To a third person, you will pass on some of the most valuable lessons you have learned about being a Christ-follower. Finally, to a fourth person, you will pass on some of the most important things you have learned about being a minister (preacher, pastor, church leader, etc.).
As you look back, perhaps you wish you had known much earlier a few things that you now realize to be true or important. Maybe you have learned these things in the last few years. Have you learned some important truths through experience, through success, or through failure? Have you learned important lessons by watching others? Perhaps you gained an important insight through Scripture or through reading the thoughts of others.
Anyway, what would you want to pass on to someone you cared about?
I will mention a few things I would want to pass on. I invite you to continue this list in your comments. (This might be a series that you will want to share with friends. Please invite them to make comments as well.) This series will have four parts:
- What I would want to pass on about being a husband or wife.
- What I would want to pass on about being a father or mother.
- What I would want to pass on about being a Christ-follower.
- What I would want to pass on about being a Christian minister.
So I will begin this partial list of what I would want to pass on to someone about being a husband or wife:
- Laugh. Laugh often! Laugh at yourself — your blunders, your goofs, your silliness. Far too many married people become defensive about their own mistakes and goofs while they laugh (in a humiliating fashion) at the mistakes of their spouse.
- Pray for your spouse and for your marriage. Marriage can be challenging and difficult and needs much prayer.
- Quickly apologize and quickly ask for forgiveness. Far too often, I allowed my pride to delay my apology. Not good.
- Enjoy your friendship with your spouse. That friendship will sustain you in many difficult moments.
- Beware of the "weeds" the evil one is planting in your heart that war against your marriage. Pay attention to what is happening in your thought world.
This list is only a beginning. What will you add?