Encouragers know that unforgettable moments often occur in the middle of what might otherwise seem to be an ordinary day.
If you want to make a difference in someone’s life, you won’t have to go far. Just step into someone else’s world for a moment. In the ordinary moments of life, encouragers will often step in and leave their mark. Don’t worry about overdoing encouragement. There is a real shortage of encouragers. Far too many of us are so preoccupied with our own lives that we really don’t pay attention to other people. Many people rarely, if ever, hear a word of encouragement.
I am not talking about flattery. I am not talking about making positive comments that are really not in your heart.
I am talking about genuine encouragement. Encouragers pay attention to others. They have an outward focus. They try to catch others doing something right. They do not take these moments for granted but look for opportunities to build.
"Wow, you really seem to know your job!"
"This pie is absolutely wonderful!"
"You handle difficult people so well."
"This was a great class today, thanks!"
Too many people focus on the negative. These people look at someone and ignore what the person is doing well while they make a mental list of what they don’t like. Some people spend much of their waking hours critiquing everyone around them. They are constantly sizing up people and evaluating them. Of course, most people they are evaluating manage to fall short.
"Hey that was a great restaurant!" "Yea, but did you see that awful picture on the wall?"
"What a wonderful message! God really spoke to me this morning." "Yea, but did you notice his hair?"
"Wasn’t that a great dessert?" "Well, it ought to be with those prices!"
"Listen, I really appreciate the great job you did on my car today." "Why thank him? It’s his job!"
Think for a moment about such statements in contrast to what an encourager might say.
This is very important. I have been blessed by having a few encouragers in my life at very important moments. Or maybe, just maybe, those moments became important because of the wonderful encouragement that I received at the time.