Be The Person Who Catches Others Doing the Right Thing.
It is so easy to get into a fault finding habit. Have you been there? It is easy to begin looking for the negative in other people. Before long, you develop a critical spirit. You may constantly critique others and focus on where they do not measure up.
Consider another way of living.
Look for what is good, what is true, and what is right in other people. Keep your eyes peeled for acts of kindness or mercy. Notice those whose intentions are good and honorable. This is important for a parent, for a married person, and for anyone who works with other people. Imagine the impact of regularly pointing out to others what you notice.
- To the cashier at the store where you have been waiting in the checkout line: "Wow, did you ever handle that last customer well! I can’t believe the way he talked to you and yet you kept your cool. That is incredible!"
- To your son who just shared a story he learned in a class at school: "I had no idea! What an interesting story. You must listen very well. I’m impressed that you remember all of those details from class this morning."
- To your daughter who showed concern for a friend whose feelings have been hurt by some other kids: "I am impressed that you have such compassion for her. She is not one of your closest friends and yet you are so concerned."
- To your Bible class teacher: "Wow, you handle some of these questions in class so well. You have a way of putting people at ease."
- To your spouse: "I think you handled that situation with the kids very well. That was not easy."
- To your friend: "You have such a way of getting to the essence of a problem. How helpful!"
What I am talking about is a mindset. It is a way of looking at people and life. Just for today, look for what is good, right, and true in the people you are with.