(I haven’t posted in a few days. I have been at Abilene Christian University’s “Summit.” While there, I heard many good speakers and also met with a number of friends.)
Lately, I have been thinking about the importance of being and having a friend. A real friend.
I have been thinking about this as a result of conversations with a lot of people. What I hear from so many people is that they do not have friends.
Now many have Facebook friends. (I am one of those who has enjoyed reconnecting with people via Facebook.) But does this really satisfy our longing to know someone and to be known by someone?
Why is it so difficult to find real friends?
- Maybe friendship is difficult because many of us are very busy and find little time to invest in friendships.
- Perhaps it is difficult because we get tired of always being the ones who have to take the initiative with friends.
- Some believe it is difficult because once we have a few friends, we have used up our capacity to form and nurture new friendships.
- It could be that our friendships are hampered by our unwillingness to be known. Consequently, we hold one another at arms length.
- It could be that we fail to put out the energy (or interest) that is necessary to cultivate and sustain friendships.
(I would really like to hear what you think about this.) Why are friendships often so difficult? Why do some people experience great difficulty in finding and nurturing friendships?