I am preparing to do a five week class that I have entitled "Marriage, Sex, and a Cloud of Confusion." I’ve been thinking about this one for a long time. I am going to address this to married people in particular. I see such confusion among married people regarding the place of sex within a marriage. I am not sure that what I hear among Christians is all that different from what one might hear among non-Christians. (Okay, that is probably an exaggeration but at the moment I don’t know how to say it any better.)
We live in a sex saturated culture on many, many fronts. Yet, we only seem to be more confused. It seems like we are confused about the meaning, purpose, and place of sex within marriage. What should we expect as married people?
Meanwhile, many continue to substitute a vicarious life (porn, certain movies, Internet affairs) for real relationship between a husband and wife.
Now my questions. What would you say to married couples in a class such as this? What do you think would be most helpful?
(I am at a retreat center with no Internet connection, so I may not be able to respond to your comments until the end of the week. Nevertheless, your comments regarding this will be very helpful to me.)