Right now I am thinking about "friendship." That word alone can mean so many different things. Some friends are closer than others. Sometimes friendships will vary with intensity and closeness.
I have known some people who seem to regularly invest in their relationship with others. I have known others who are almost totally passive in their friendships. (The other person must be the one to initiate, to call, to invite to lunch, etc.)
Sometimes couples will have a season of life where they are particularly close to a few other couples. Then, their friends move and for the next few decades, they struggle to experience the same kind of relationships.
I believe that to some degree, every human being needs relationships. Scripture affirms over and over that we were made for relationship and for life in community in some form. But how does a person come to be a friend to another person?
Now you may wonder why I would post this today. Maybe it is because so many people are starved for intimacy on some level. It is interesting that we are a culture that reveals most everything about ourselves on the Internet. Person after person will reveal the most intimate and personal details about themselves on Face-book or My Space. Yet, even though we reveal so much, so many of us seem to be starved for real relationships. How does a person become someone who knows another and is really known by another?
This morning I have been thinking about a variety of people:
- The salesperson
- The office worker
- The university student
- The stay-at-home mom
- The Fed-Ex delivery person
- The minister
- The school teacher
- The university professor
- The medical technician
The list could go on and on. Each one of us needs a friend or friends.
Questions: How does a person come to be a friend? What, in your experience, is important if one wishes to experience a good and rich friendship with another person?
Why do some people seem to have great difficulty finding a friend(s)? What kind of behaviors might get in the way of experiencing a healthy friendship with someone else?