They are everywhere!
People who just react. People who drain the life out of gatherings as they react to others in ways that are immature, curt, and abrupt. Like letting the air out of a balloon, they have a way of deflating most any conversation. Even worse, they are often allowed to deflate the dreams and the spirit of very fine men and women.
I really don’t want to be like that. Do you? I identify with the questions raised in The Leader’s Journey, a fine work by Jim Herrington, R. Robert Creech, and Trisha Taylor:
"How do I get to the place where I am consistently able to choose a response rather than simply to react? How can I grow emotionally and spiritually to the place where I am capable, more often than not, of choosing what I believe to be God’s will in my role as leader rather than yielding to the pressures to do something else? This is the transformational journey." (p. 23)
The authors believe that this journey is rooted in the living and active presence of Jesus. He is the dynamic presence who is present with us at every moment. This transformation is all encompassing.
Part of this transformation involves a process of maturity that moves us toward taking our cues from Jesus instead of other people. To again quote the authors:
"Differentiation is the ability to remain connected in relationship to significant people in our lives and yet not have our reactions and behavior determined by them." (p. 18)
I believe this is incredibly important. I would enjoy hearing your response to these two quotes.
I am thankful for patient tutors. My two daughters have been very patient as I am still trying to figure out Facebook. (For a link to my page see the "About" section to the right.) Meanwhile, my friend Scott Meyer patiently tutored me through setting up the God-Hungry Live video site. (Again, the "About" section to the right.)