At the time, it was a new luxury car. It was a car that I could only dream of owning. The owner was a wealthy man in our small church. I was a newly married, young preacher. That morning, as I walked out of our church building, I could see him already sitting behind the wheel of his parked car, puffing on a big cigar.
As I walked by his car, I waved to him. His window slowly came down. He glared at me and sternly said, “Let’s don’t talk about race anymore!”
That morning I had preached a sermon and at some point had said something about race and the way we treat one another. As I recall, I spoke regarding the way we as Christians are called to treat others, regardless of ethnic group.
Apparently this man did not like what I said. This was a new experience for me. I had never had someone immediately snap at me like this regarding what was just said in a sermon. I responded by saying something like, “I was just applying the message of the text that I was preaching this morning.”
I thought about his remark throughout the day. I knew he was used to having his way. I also knew that he gave more money on Sunday morning than anyone else and that our small church was impacted by his gift. I reflected on what I had said in the sermon and genuinely believed that what I said was appropriate.
On one level his comment was about race but it actually was about much more. His comment forced me to reflect on why I preached and why I did any kind of ministry in the first place.
She sat in my office staring at the floor. I’ve seen that look so many times on the faces of men and women who have experienced hurt.
Sometimes, life is really hard.
You may feel hurt, disappointed, and empty.
You may feel numb.
Whatever the reason, there comes a point when you need to hear once again a word of hope.
I love Psalm 73. In fact, it may be one of my favorite Psalms. The Psalm speaks of a person who says that his “feet had almost slipped.” He became so discouraged after seeing the unfairness and pain that exists in the world. He saw the “prosperity of the wicked” (73:3). It seemed as if they had no struggles, burdens or the common human ills (73:4-5). They were a prideful and arrogant people (73:6-8). The world was not working right and it was very discouraging to this writer. He felt as if his faith was all for nothing (73:13)
However all of this changed later and he came away from the sanctuary very encouraged.
That afternoon, we drove away from their house. We had been in a difficult conversation. We met with a woman whom we both liked and admired but found difficult. She seemed self-assured and almost smug. I told my wife that it seemed as if she perceived herself to be an expert on most subjects.
Yet, Charlotte had a different take on this woman. “She is actually quite fearful.”
Upon reflection, I think she is correct.
How do you spot a fearful person? Is this a person who is cowering in the corner with fear? Not necessarily. This may be a 30 year old man who, like an insecure boy, is doing his best to appear cool. Actually, one may be speaking with a fearful person and yet not really be aware of this person’s fearfulness. This person may actually be dominated by fear. Children are often more obvious in the way they express their fear. They typically fight or flee when they are afraid. Adults respond in much the same way, only we try to mask our fear.
The following are some links that you may find helpful and even encouraging. Enjoy!
Productivity and Time
Essentialism may have been one of the most helpful books regarding productivity that I have read in some time. I read it almost twelves months ago and continue to come back to the principles in the book. Don’t miss this. Michael Hyatt and Michele Cushatt interviews author Greg McKeown.
I’ve mentioned this before but the series “How I Work” on the blog Lifehacker continues to be a series that I don’t miss. Quite often, I discover a resource in this series that is helpful.
Dallas Cowboy Terrance Williams does something meaningful for a sick child. See this news story.
Read this column by long-time Dallas News columnist Steve Blow: “‘Enjoy sinning? Join the Choir’ And other fun with church bulletin bloopers.”
Don’t miss this very good interview with Margaret Feinberg from Religion and Ethics Newsweekly.
This is a wonderful story! The Vanguard College Prepatory School in Waco, Texas has to be very proud of these students.
The following post consists of nine practical steps that might be helpful to you if you wish to grow in the ministry of mentoring. This post is meant to be helpful.
1. The power of mentoring is in “coming alongside” not in giving someone more information, suggestions, advice, etc. You bring the presence of Jesus. The goal is coming alongside to help that person mature (spiritually, emotionally, relationally) in order to honor God.
2. Make a list of FIVE people whom you might mentor. (The more specific you are regarding the identity of these people, the more likely you will actually act.)
3. Pray for these FIVE people
- Pray for opportunity, an open door with one or more of these people
- Pray for your own desire and willingness to follow through
- Pray that you might for an awareness of how to be most helpful to these people.
4. Consider these possible approaches to mentoring these FIVE people: long term, occasional, seasonal. Discern which one (or more) of these FIVE you need to approach.
Trust is everything!
If you are a church leader, trust really is everything. It doesn’t matter whether you are a preacher, an elder, or a volunteer with the youth group, trust is everything. A congregation’s present and future are greatly impacted by whether or not the leaders within the church can be trusted.
If people trust you, that is huge. If they don’t trust you, well, I’m not sure what you can do. As a church leader, you may preach sermons, make important announcements, or initiate special projects. However, if the members do not trust you it is awfully hard to move forward.
A gripping, powerful story from the Washington Post. “A father’s scars: For Va.’s Creigh Deeds, tragedy brings unending questions.”
See Mark Woodward’s interesting and helpful report from the recent Global Missions Conference held in Memphis, Tn. See “What Do the Experts Say About Short-Term Missions?” and “What Experts Say About Short-Term Missions, Part 2.”
Michael Hyatt has written a good post! “My Secret Weapon for Extra-Energy at Work. I practice this more occasionally than regularly. However, I have noticed a tremendous boost in my energy when I do practice this.
Melanie Pinola has written a fine post regarding a writing schedule but is actually applicable to other forms of work as well. See “How to Stick to a Writing Schedule.”
Do you read Shane Parish’s Farnam Street? I find this useful. Parish will often review and discuss books that I will probably not read but often have an interest in the subject matter.
Working with a congregation can bring great joy. Yet, it is also very difficult work.
There are some behaviors which can irritate a congregation and even work to lesson a minister’s tenure with that congregation.
A minister can behave so that his own ministry is undermined and credibility is lessoned.
The following are eight behaviors that can cause a congregation to become irritated with their minister. The continuation of these behaviors over time can even lead to serious repercussions.
My friend said many years ago:
Assumptions will kill you!
My friend was right! Be careful about assumptions.
1. Don’t assume I understand what you haven’t explained clearly. So often we assume that someone coming into our system (church, school, university, workplace) knows exactly what to do. So it is Sunday morning and everyone is talking about the great dinner that took place at the church building on Friday evening. You are not sure what they are talking about. You are puzzled. After all, no one mentioned this last Sunday morning. Finally someone says “Oh yes, we do this every year. This is our annual going back to school dinner. No one says much about it. Everyone knows all about it.”