Far too often men and women will unleash their anger on the people closest to them. Perhaps it is someone in the family, a friend, or someone at church. What transpires is often hurtful, damaging, and sinful.
- The young couple who unleash their fury on one another cussing at one another and calling one another vile, degrading names. Yes, this couple is typically in church on Sunday.
- The teenage boy who torments his insecure sister making fun of her weight and appearance. Yet, this same young man is often known as a very sweet and kind boy by some of his teachers at school.
- A group of people went into an elders’ meeting one evening angrily demanding that the preacher be fired. At one point, one of them cussed and demanded the elder group do what he requested. Yet this same group will later tell you that they “love” every one of these elders.
- The married adult daughter of an older woman in the church regularly talks harshly to her mother. Her mother is in poor health. Yet, this daughter is often rude, abrupt, and hurtful. Among many of her friends, however, she is known as sensitive and kind.
- A man in the congregation verbally attacks a friend whom he has known for years. His friend was stunned at the man’s accusations. A week later, the same man acted as if nothing had ever happened.
It is almost like we give ourselves special permission to talk to particular people in a manner that we would never speak to most people in our lives. We will say things like “I know I shouldn’t say this, but . . . .” What comes after the “but” is often deadly to a relationship.
Some seem to think that the words or behavior of another gives them the right to say what they want in return.
Not exactly the way of Jesus.