I am writing a few posts for people who are not yet married but who think that someday they might be. (You can read Part 1 here.)
I would like to get your response to the following question:
What are some "red flags" that a person ought to pay attention to before choosing to marry?
For example, when one experiences a lot of anger from another person, that can be a "red flag" in a relationship. Perhaps a person is prone to explode or get violent. Another "red flag" is the person who has a pattern of dishonesty. Perhaps he cheats on his taxes, or he lies to his parents, or he doesn’t keep his promises, or you learn that he doesn’t pay his debts.
A number of years ago, our family was on vacation in North Carolina. One day, we stopped for lunch in Cherokee. As I recall, we ate a picnic lunch at a local park. We were at one of the picnic tables as were a number of other vacationers. At one point during our meal, we heard shouting. Some guy was going ballistic. He was screaming at a child — apparently his own. His wife looked horrified as people throughout the picnic area turned to see what was going on. I wonder now if she had witnessed this kind of thing before they got married. Did she see any sign that there would be this kind of anger explosion?
I am suggesting that some behaviors or patterns in relationships may warrant real caution. In fact, some patterns might be the basis to terminate the relationship altogether.
What other "red flag" behaviors would you add to this list?