Please tell me what else needs to be included.
Over the last couple of weeks, I have shared 41 things that married people really ought to know. (See part 1 here, part 2 here, and part 3 here.) Some of these come from my own experience of being married for many years. Others on this list come from observing the marriages of others. This is not meant to be an exhaustive list. Perhaps this will be helpful as you form your own list.
32. If a couple pursues peace and chooses love over self-centeredness, they can work through almost any issue. If a couple is at war, most any issue can be a point of contention.
33. A couple can bless one another by creating a home atmosphere that is pleasant, inviting and warm. They will look forward to coming home after a long day at work.
34. A person with a demanding spirit often pushes his or her spouse away. Far too many people enter marriage determined that certain behaviors are not going to change. Consequently, that spouse continues to watch nonstop ball games, hunt every weekend, or shop every weekend.
35. Look for the good in another. Too many of us focus on the negative and the shortcomings we see in one another.
36. I can add something positive to the environment of my home by being pleasant and enjoyable to be around. When I am negative, pessimistic, and constantly griping, I am like a gray, dark cloud casting a shadow over the day.
37. Being hard on your spouse may produce the desired effect — for a time. In other words, you may get your way, thought, being demanding and overbearing often creates deep resentment and anger. Most of all, such attitudes do not create internal change.
38. Most of us would do well to think before we speak. There is no real merit in allowing every fleeting thought to come out of your mouth. Please don’t say, “I was just being honest.” Even honest speech needs discerning.
39. Every married human being is married to a sinner. A person can never meet the deepest needs of his/her spouse. Only God is capable of bringing completeness to a human being’s life.
40. Remember that you are married to God’s daughter or son. You know how you feel when someone mistreats one of your children. You also know how you feel when someone has been a blessing to one of your children. Think about how God might feel as he sees how you treat his child. What does he see in your house?
41. Every good moment you experience in your marriage is a gift of God. Don’t act as if you deserve these moments. Don’t act as if you are entitled. Christians understand that we are totally dependent on God’s grace. It is out of that grace that we have air, food, and, yes, the good moments of marriage.
What would you include in this list that has not been covered in this series?