31. A couple can bless one another by creating a home atmosphere that is pleasant, inviting, and warm. They will look forward to going home to one another after a long day at work.
32. A husband or wife with a demanding spirit will often push their spouse farther away. Regardless of the legitimacy of the issue, a demanding person feels threatening.
33. I know it sounds almost simplistic, but—it is very important that we learn to look for the good in one another. Too many of us get overly focused on the negative and the shortcomings we see in each other.
34. Am I an enjoyable person to be around? I can really add something to the environment of my home by being pleasant and enjoyable. When I am negative, pessimistic, and constantly griping, I am like a gray, dark cloud casting a shadow over the day.
35. Being hard on one another may produce the desired external behavior–for a time. But it usually creates deep resentment and anger. Most of all, it doesn’t produce internal change.
36. Most of us would do well to think before we speak. There is no real merit in allowing every fleeting thought to come out of our mouths. (Please don’t say, "I was just being honest." Honest words still need discernment). We need to pray for wisdom regrading what we say. We can say hurtful things to one another which may have a lingering effect for a long time.
37. Every human being who is married is married to a sinner. This person can never meet the deepest needs of his or her spouse. Only God is capable of bringing ultimate completeness to my life.
38. Christ-followers find ultimate happiness in God above all else. Some people place incredible pressure on their marriage by trying to find happiness in that relationship. It only adds to to the stress of life.
39. Individual daily repentance will ultimately bless marriage. There is something good about getting honest before the Lord every day. A husband or wife would do well to examine how he behaved with his wife the previous day. Ask God’s forgiveness for an attitude, behavior, or words which were not Christ-like.
40. Remember that you are married to God’s daughter or God’s son. You know how you feel when someone mistreats one of your children. You also know how you feel when someone has been a blessing to your son or daughter. Think about how God might feel as he sees how you treat his daughter or son. God knows the intent of our hearts. What does he see? (Thanks to Gary Thomas for some of these thoughts).
41. Every good moment you experience in your married life needs to be received as a gift from God. Don’t act like you deserve these moments! Don’t think you are entitled. Christ-followers understand that we are totally dependent on God’s grace. It is out of that grace that we have air, food, and yes, the good moments of marriage.